WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU MATTERS

What happened to your ancestors matters too!

Family Heirlooms…What your ancestors handed down to you matters!  Families hand down real estate, financial portfolios, jewelry, china, silverware and even season football tickets, from one to generation to the next!  Families also hand down the effects of their emotional experiences and behaviors.

People’s life experiences impact how they show up in relationships yesterday, today and tomorrow. Your ancestors’ experiences impacted the way they were able to interact and respond emotionally with their family, friends and community.  Humans are not only shaped by our experiences but also the experiences of our ancestors.

As a child, you were handed down the gifts and emotional burdens of the generations that came before you.  The angry father may have acted that way as a result of PTSD from the war.  The detached mother might have been heartbroken because of multiple miscarriages, marital infidelity or the death of family member.  The adult that needed things done perfectly, might have grown up in a chaotic unpredictable environment.  The actions of our caretaker’s (parents, teachers & coaches) shape how we see the world and interact in it.  Caretakers did the best they could with the capacity they had.  Sometimes it wasn’t adequate for a child’s development.

Adverse life experiences in childhood often have lifelong implications on relationships and personal health.  The ACE questionnaire is tool developed to identify the impact of childhood experiences of abuse and neglect. The study found childhood traumatic stress has strong potential to impair social, emotional, and cognitive development.  It also found a higher risk of developing serious health problems in adulthood.  There are 10 types of stressful events in the ACE study. Did you experience any of these as a child?

5 are Personal

Emotional, physical, sexual, spiritual, psychological abuse

5 are Related to Family Members

absence of a parent though divorce, death or abandonment
mother or stepmother who was treated violently

household member who abused alcohol or drugs
household member who was diagnosed with a mental illness
household member who went to prison

The higher a person’s ACE score the higher the probability they will have significant health issues in adulthood.

What happened to you matters.  It could be impacting your health and current relationships. What happened to you also shapes your children’s lives, their future and your grand children’s lives and future. What happened impacts your legacy.

At the Path to Healing, we specialize in treating the long-lasting effects of traumatic stress.  During our 3 and 4-day intensive workshops, we take the charge out of the difficult, emotional family heirlooms and clear the way for joy and a successful family legacy.  Don’t let your past rule your present and your future.  We facilitate workshops and individual sessions designed specifically for your own emotional needs.  I WANT TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU. To find out your ACE Score. Contact Tricia at (561)886-7985 or www.thepathtohealing.net today.

Therapy can be the best return on investment available to you!

 

Who’s in The Drivers Seat of Your Life

As adults we often assume we are in the drivers seat of our lives.  Is this really true?  Its been my experience that peoples lives are ruled by their unhealed wounds.  The woundings we gather through life continue to have an emotional charge to them.  This charge causes people to react, avoid and create chaos in their personal and professional life.  It is important that these wounds are addressed so the charge can be removed and they are no longer in the drivers seat.  I had the great privlidge to work with a great group of people last week at “The Path Intensive”  to take back control of their lives.  One of the participants stated “when people are tired of being in pain and they are lucky enough they can give them the gift of doing this intensive!”

 

 

“Not all codependents are care takers but most care takers are codependent!”

Recovery is the best Revenge!”

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“AT WHAT COST?”  Joy Is Dependent on Integrity

How an individual behaves when no one is looking is a measure of a person’s integrity.  Our moral compass tells us what is acceptable behavior for us.  Sometimes it is tempting to see “What can I get away with when no one is looking?”  Often the answer to that question is “I can get away with doing this and no one will know.” It is always helpful to ask yourself “AT WHAT COST?”  “What will the choice cost me or another person.”  People who live in a state of joy often are mindful of the impact of their choices.  Content, Joyful people’s mindset is “What can I contribute to this community, event, relationship etc.”  rather than “What can I get out of this community, event, relationship?”

To increase your joy, find ways to contribute to others anonymously.  Share a smile, take in your neighbors trash cans, donate some time, buy someone a concert ticket who could not afford one.  Make one small or large contribution today.  It will increase your joy.

How an individual behaves when no one is looking is a measure of a person’s integrity.  Our moral compass tells us what is acceptable behavior for us.  Sometimes it is tempting to see “What can I get away with when no one is looking?”  Often the answer to that question is “I can get away with doing this and no one will know.” It is always helpful to ask yourself “AT WHAT COST?”  “What will the choice cost me or another person.”  People who live in a state of joy often are mindful of the impact of their choices.  Content, Joyful people’s mindset is “What can I contribute to this community, event, relationship etc.”  rather than “What can I get out of this community, event, relationship?”

To increase your joy,  find ways to contribute to others anonymously.  Share a smile, take in your neighbors trash cans, donate some time, buy someone a concert ticket who could not afford one.  Make one small or large contribution today.  It will increase your joy.How an individual behaves when no one is looking is a measure of a person’s integrity.  Our moral compass tells us what is acceptable behavior for us.  Sometimes it is tempting to see “What can I get away with when no one is looking?”  Often the answer to that question is “I can get away with doing this and no one will know.” It is always helpful to ask yourself “AT WHAT COST?”  “What will the choice cost me or another person.”  People who live in a state of joy often are mindful of the impact of their choices.  Content, Joyful people’s mindset is “What can I contribute to this community, event, relationship etc.”  rather than “What can I get out of this community, event, relationship?”
To increase your joy find ways to contribute to others anonymously.  Share a smile, take in your neighbors trash cans, donate some time, buy someone a concert ticket who could not afford one.  Make one small or large contribution today.  It will increase your joy.

How an individual behaves when no one is looking is a measure of a person’s integrity.  Our moral compass tells us what is acceptable behavior for us.  Sometimes it is tempting to see “What can I get away with when no one is looking?”  Often the answer to that question is “I can get away with doing this and no one will know.” It is always helpful to ask yourself “AT WHAT COST?”  “What will the choice cost me or another person.”  People who live in a state of joy often are mindful of the impact of their choices.  Content, Joyful people’s mindset is “What can I contribute to this community, event, relationship etc.”  rather than “What can I get out of this community, event, relationship?”

To increase your joy find ways to contribute to others anonymously.  Share a smile, take in your neighbors trash cans, donate some time, buy someone a concert ticket who could not afford one.  Make one small or large contribution today.  It will increase your joy.